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Asking for Help: A Sign of Strength

Sheri here –

Asking and accepting help is the sign of strength, not weakness – it as allowing someone else to give you a gift. Seeking assistance when you don’t know something will save you time, effort, money and maybe more.

While help is technically a four letter word, sometimes help (the word) really seems like a FOUR LETTER word – you know the one that shocks the system with its “dirty” meaning. Asking for help is NOT a “dirty” word either.

Giving and Receiving

Would you say no to a birthday or Christmas gift? Receiving is part of the natural order of things. It is half of the giving cycle.

Are you more comfortable giving than receiving? How would you feel if someone refused your gift and wouldn’t allow you to give? Would you be willing to offer again?

For many giving is a gift. Just think, if people were unwilling to receive, what would that do for those, who wanted to give? Refusing a gift disrupts the cycle of giving and receiving.

Asking and Accepting

When we don’t ask for help or accept help – it is like saying no to a gift.

Sometimes you need help. Whether it is for a dire situation or a situation where you have a limited level of skill.

Accepting help or asking for it is not a sign of weakness. Quite the reverse – asking and accepting help is a sign of courage and strength.

Acknowledging where you are is one of the most courageous things you can do. It is the first step in a new journey.

In the environment of the pandemic, many people are reaching out to learn something new, to put something different into place or to just do something different because your environments changed.

No matter what you are doing, being open to accepting help is a good thing – it can expand your horizons. Look at help in a new way, as part of the giving cycle – as part of the natural order of the Universe.

Notice your attitude toward asking or accepting help – is it really serving you and those around you?

Allow someone else to contribute to your growth or wellbeing. Who knows, you may be stronger in ways you can’t predict.

Go on ask, step outside your comfort zone and allow another to possibly step outside theirs.

Ciao,

Sheri

P.S. You can practice if you wish by asking me for help with asking for help – book a call here.

Ask for What? Help!!

Asking for Help

Sheri here –

Have you ever discovered that you had a splinter in your finger, and you have no recollection of when or how it happened? Worse, you can’t see it well enough to remove it?

When did our vision, our eyesight change?

The last time I tried to use a needle and thread, I was getting ready to leave my hotel room on the way to a meeting and I looked down and saw a ripped seam in a very visible spot.

All I had was a little hotel sewing kit. You may know the one, the one with a few strands of basic colored threaded and a needle, maybe a button and a tiny safety pin. The eyes of the needle is one of the teeny tiny ones. The ones that used to be easy to thread; but now, that bloody thread wasn’t going into that little hole.

At home, I have needles with big eyes or ask for help in repairing it; but in my hotel ready to walk out – a different story.

I Remember I Used to Laugh

I remember, I used to laugh at my quirky Aunt Lorene, who I just adored, and the stuff that she would do. She couldn’t see something; realize she needed her glasses and then she would wander all over the house looking for her glasses, only to discover they were on the top of her head.

I’d giggle and then she would turn to me and give me that look – you know that look the “just wait, your turn is coming”. With the arrogance of youth, I thought “no way, never gonna happen to me!”

But here I am, trying to thread that needle, looking for my glasses or my car keys or my cell phone.

I had become my quirky Aunt chasing my glasses, my car keys, my cell phone.

When does our vision change? Is it the same time our perspective on life changes?

Do you relate to any of this?

What Do We Do?

What do we do? Fight it, refuse to believe it, accept it, or, wait for it, ask for help – are you kidding? That doesn’t seem right, well, not yet!

Sometimes the solution is surrender. Pause, stop for a moment, take a deep breath, maybe ask the Universe, God, or your Higher Power for help.

The Universe, God, or your Higher Power ALWAYS answer. Maybe not the one you want, and it is frequently one of the following: Yes, no or not now (darn!!)

A solution arrives, many times in an unexpected manner, other times, hitting the pause button is all that was needed. Those keys or phone or glasses show up.

That needle in the hotel, persistence worked – the pause gave me a new perspective.

In that moment of surrender, when we just throw up our hands and say what the heck, there seems to be just enough room for a change in our thinking, our perspective, our point of view.

Maybe the change in perspective is asking for help.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Keep More Money in Your Pocket

So, while I go looking for the tweezers with the magnifier attached for my splinter, here are a couple changes of perspective for keeping more money in your pocket.

Consider becoming a distributor for your favorite cosmetics, skin and hair care. Get it wholesale!
Look at the coupons in your drug store to see if you can save on items that you use regularly.
Avoid online shopping when you’re in a “retail therapy” trying-to-fill-a-hole-mode. Maybe talk to a friend instead.
Buy a classic coat and sweater style in basic colors or your favorite color that you can use season after season. Splurge on a beautiful scarf and change the look.
Call your cable TV or satellite provider and see if you can get a cheaper rate – tell them you’re also looking at their competitor (of course if there is no competition, just asking for options might help).

Drop a comment below and let me know how these tips are working for you and how I can help!

Ciao,
Sheri
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