I Gave Away My Wedding Dress
Sheri here –
How easily do you let go of things? For me letting go is extremely difficult. (Most everything I have let go of still has my claw marks on it!) But letting go is part of life and knowing when to is key.
As part of my 2021 vision, I wanted to start fresh by decluttering, organizing and upgrading my home. What I did not expect is the universe to deliver parts of my vision with a sprained arm and a complicated water leak! But from this I’ve learned that almost anything can turn into a blessing!
These unforeseen challenges pushed me to get rid of things that I no longer needed and to ask for help– neither of which is easy for me. In order for the water leak to be repaired I had to clean out some things and organize. Who knew one water leak could wreak such havoc?!
Find a Balance Between What Was & What Is
During this, I discovered there really is a process to letting go. It starts with willingness, ends with goodbye and is filled with many emotional steps in between. I had to acknowledge that I was done with whatever I was letting go of and that I’ve derived all the value and joy I was going to get. Marie Kondo would approve as she is a firm believer that when the joy is gone, it’s time to let the thing go!
But was all of the joy gone? Well, some items really were just things to store and collect dust and no longer held importance to me. But some things were more than that– things I’ve held onto for a long time, spent significant money on and created memories with.
I discovered that I had to let go emotionally and mentally first, before I ever had a chance of letting go physically. With my wedding dress, I was married 21 years ago, and am blessed to still be happily married. That was my dream dress– with lots of stories attached. I wore it once, had it cleaned and carefully put away.
I thought I had to keep the dress and eventually pass it on. But it has been over 20 years and I decided it was time to let it go. Maybe, it will become the dream dress for another bride who could create joyous memories of her own.
Focus on What You Are Gaining
Certain items have material connections to people and memories. But by holding onto items that are no longer being used or enjoyed, you are not really preserving anything, you are just hanging onto them. And hanging on is different than preserving. The memories built will remain forever in your heart.
The unexpected emotions that accompanied the letting go of my dress were sadness and grief. The sadness is what really caught me off guard. Ok, yes, there were even a few tears shed. This is all part of the process of letting go though. Letting go will make room for other parts of my 2021 vision. Saying goodbye to the past opens new doors to the future. It will allow you to embrace every moment and live life to the fullest!
Where Are You in the Process
How about you? How do you let go? How do you release things? Do you do it quickly or does it take you a long time?
Do you say good riddance or do you say goodbye with sadness? Or do you not say goodbye at all and hold on tight?
Maybe you don’t hold onto things. Maybe you don’t get attached and want to keep things to remind you of the past. Maybe you haven’t started letting go yet?
I also remember when I was clearing out my parents home, I vowed that I wasn’t going to leave “stuff” for someone else to get rid of. It’s just taken time to start that promise.
I’d love to hear your experiences with letting go – decluttering your home or someone else’s. Leave a comment below and share your experience with decluttering or letting go.
Maybe you haven’t started letting go and you are still thinking about it. If you need some encouragement or support, feel free to give me a call – use this link to book.
Remember it’s a journey, and wherever you are is exactly right.
Til the next time.