Sheri Here,

The last couple of months have been a blur, between my husband’s passing, going away for a week, and a milestone birthday. The mania that accompanied all that activity was a bit overwhelming.

Whether it was the activities associated with the events or the feelings, good or bad, that arose as a result, it was a lot.

Identifying Priorities

After all that activity, while that’s all behind me, I’m now looking around and thinking, “Now what?” What does my life look like? What does life feel like? What’s the next indicated step?

Everywhere I look, the landscape has changed.

To say I’m disoriented is an understatement, but what is a constant in my life is the relationship with my Higher Power, whom I choose to call God.

Sometimes I must be reminded that God’s in charge – so what is the question?

My questions revolve around handling a new singlehood and living alone. I haven’t done that in about a quarter of a century, 25 years. Yes, it is a long time.

I’ve started to go to the gym. It’s been a while since I was last there, but it’s coming back, the old routine and now a new routine. But it’s still strange.

Coming home to a house exactly as I left it is also strange and yet there is comfort there.

Next Indicated Steps

Getting to new routines similar or not to old routines is hard. Everything has changed. Not bad, just change. How do we deal with change? How do we go through the process of revisiting every aspect of our lives? Where do we start?

We start with the most important priorities: food and shelter. Once that’s been taken care of then we can move on. By being an active participant in my life, not abdicating my responsibility for my self-care, I can more easily address those issues.

Ok, what’s next? Next depends upon one’s priorities. What are they? Do you have them? Have you revisited your personal priorities lately? Yes, I’ve asked some big questions; but priorities help us answer those questions! I’ve mentioned my priorities start with God, then my health and wellbeing, knowing those are managed, I can address the next items on my list.

What About You?

What are your priorities?

If your world is rattled by life circumstances, do you know what your next actions are?

Or even where to start?

If you’re struggling with your priorities now, change will make a mess of it. If you are ready to get your priorities in order and need help, call me here.

Let’s talk and work on it together. Sometimes two heads and hearts are better than one. Just a simple conversation can make all the difference in the world – contact me here.

Until the next time.



P.S. No time like the present to revisit your life priorities since we’ve no idea what tomorrow will bring. Let’s talk, set up time here and let’s get started!

Asking for Help

Ask for What? Help!!

Sheri here –

Have you ever discovered that you had a splinter in your finger, and you have no recollection of when or how it happened? Worse, you can’t see it well enough to remove it?

When did our vision, our eyesight change?

The last time I tried to use a needle and thread, I was getting ready to leave my hotel room on the way to a meeting and I looked down and saw a ripped seam in a very visible spot.

All I had was a little hotel sewing kit. You may know the one, the one with a few strands of basic colored threaded and a needle, maybe a button and a tiny safety pin. The eyes of the needle is one of the teeny tiny ones. The ones that used to be easy to thread; but now, that bloody thread wasn’t going into that little hole.

At home, I have needles with big eyes or ask for help in repairing it; but in my hotel ready to walk out – a different story.

I Remember I Used to Laugh

I remember, I used to laugh at my quirky Aunt Lorene, who I just adored, and the stuff that she would do.  She couldn’t see something; realize she needed her glasses and then she would wander all over the house looking for her glasses, only to discover they were on the top of her head.

I’d giggle and then she would turn to me and give me that look – you know that look the “just wait, your turn is coming”.  With the arrogance of youth, I thought “no way, never gonna happen to me!”

But here I am, trying to thread that needle, looking for my glasses or my car keys or my cell phone.

I had become my quirky Aunt chasing my glasses, my car keys, my cell phone.

When does our vision change?  Is it the same time our perspective on life changes? 

Do you relate to any of this?

What Do We Do?

What do we do? Fight it, refuse to believe it, accept it, or, wait for it, ask for help – are you kidding? That doesn’t seem right, well, not yet!

Sometimes the solution is surrender. Pause, stop for a moment, take a deep breath, maybe ask the Universe, God, or your Higher Power for help.

The Universe, God, or your Higher Power ALWAYS answer. Maybe not the one you want, and it is frequently one of the following: Yes, no or not now (darn!!)

A solution arrives, many times in an unexpected manner, other times, hitting the pause button is all that was needed. Those keys or phone or glasses show up.

That needle in the hotel, persistence worked – the pause gave me a new perspective.

In that moment of surrender, when we just throw up our hands and say what the heck, there seems to be just enough room for a change in our thinking, our perspective, our point of view.

Maybe the change in perspective is asking for help.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Keep More Money in Your Pocket

So, while I go looking for the tweezers with the magnifier attached for my splinter, here are a couple changes of perspective for keeping more money in your pocket.

  • Consider becoming a distributor for your favorite cosmetics, skin and hair care. Get it wholesale!
  • Look at the coupons in your drug store to see if you can save on items that you use regularly.
  • Avoid online shopping when you’re in a “retail therapy” trying-to-fill-a-hole-mode. Maybe talk to a friend instead.
  • Buy a classic coat and sweater style in basic colors or your favorite color that you can use season after season. Splurge on a beautiful scarf and change the look.
  • Call your cable TV or satellite provider and see if you can get a cheaper rate – tell them you’re also looking at their competitor (of course if there is no competition, just asking for options might help).

Drop a comment below and let me know how these tips are working for you and how I can help!

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